What is anger?
Anger is a natural and potentially productive emotion. It is a warning bell that tells you something is wrong in a situation and is usually experienced as an unpleasant feeling of displeasure or hostility.
How do I know that I am angry?
Ask yourself the following questions:
  • Do I easily lose patience with people?
  • Do I often feel that life is unfair to me?
  • Do I say threatening or nasty things when I am angry?
  • Do I get angry enough to hit, throw, or kick things?
  • When I really lose my temper, am I capable of slapping or hitting someone?
If your answer is yes to most of the questions you may have problems with anger.
What makes me angry?
To understand your anger ask yourself Is it really true that he or she makes me angry or am I making myself angry? Someone said or did something that was unacceptable to me. Perhaps, it seemed unfair to me. It creates a new problem for me, or makes it difficult for me to get what I want. Naturally, I don't like it. It frustrates me. It upsets all my plans. This may be directly opposite of what I expected from this person. It denies me what I really wanted. But all the things I mentioned are "I", "me" and "mine." I made myself angry because those are my perceptions, my desires, and my expectations, etc.
Can anger harm my health?
There is some evidence that inappropriately expressing anger can be harmful to your health. Whether you're overly passive and keep your anger pent up, whether you're prone to violent outbursts, or whether you're quietly seething with rage, you may have headaches, sleep difficulties, high blood pressure or digestive problems. There's even some evidence that stress and hostility related to anger can lead to heart attacks.
If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot.